This ‘Pink & Blue Debate’ is quite clichéd now; still, there’s a lot of scope of improvement in people’s perspective and their behavior towards a newborn girl and a newborn boy. Pink is associated with girls. Pink is a delicate color that means sweet, nice, playful, cute, romantic, charming, feminine, and tenderness is associated with bubble gum, flowers, babies, little girls, cotton candy, and sweetness. The color pink is the color of universal love of oneself and of others. While on the other hand, Blue is the color of the sky and sea. It is often associated with depth and stability. It symbolizes trust, loyalty, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, faith, truth, and heaven.
If we use simple logic, then all the adjectives associated with pink colors are also found in a male and the things that a blue color signifies can be seen in a female also. A boy can be as cute as a girl and a girl can be as intelligent as a boy. Period. No more explanations needed here!
We are two sisters and we are born to such parents who rarely told us that you are a girl – don’t do this and don’t do that because you are a girl! They never made us feel like some other species on the planet. They gave us everything that they would have given to their boy child. I remember some of the instances where some of our close relatives made our parents and us girls feel inferior, for we are “only two sisters”. But the sad news is those who gave birth to 5 boys — one after another has no one to look after in their old age. Yes, this is for real (in one of our close relations). Let’s not dig deeper into this!
I am a proud mom of two girls and by now you already must have guessed that I also had to face such things. When I was pregnant with the second baby, I also received blessings like ‘Putravati Bhav’! I won’t deny that I also wanted a boy the second time, for the variety of experiences that it would give me. Apart from this, I did not find any other superior benefit of having a baby boy. My two girls are now my whole world!
I remember the sadness on people’s faces when I gave birth to the second girl. I was surprised when our family doctor who did both deliveries suggested me to take the third chance soon while she was releasing me from the hospital during the second time. I was taken aback by this patriarchal thinking of having at least one baby boy in the house. I have seen many families in our close relatives who have all boys children in the house and all have left their parents’ nests empty owing to different circumstances in their lives. Only the old aged mom and dad are left alone in the house. Disheartening truth of life.
Despite all these realities in today’s time, I don’t understand people’s (especially the older generation’s) obsession with having a baby boy. Oh yes, they want to have a male kid, for he will keep their surname alive? I too haven’t changed my maiden name after marriage and no one insisted on me for doing that. There could be a myriad of reasons for having at least one baby boy in the family but having two kids of the female gender is not bad either. Likewise having a first newborn baby boy is not like hitting a jackpot.
Can’t we just give best wishes and blessings to the newborn and new mom? Can we just stop wishing for the so-called-superior-gender? Can we stop associating colors with the genders? Can’t we just be happy with what we have? Can we just stop making others feel bad about what they have? Can we spread the colors of happiness all around? Can we just wish for a ‘happy’ and healthy child from a mom-to-be and not guess about ‘pink’ or ‘blue’?
Only we all together can bring this change of happiness?!